Haven't finished reading your post but was stopped by the phrase "I just don't want him to think he's forgiven..."
wth? Why make that something unattainable? If you can't forgive him for your sake, let alone his, why not file for a D now? Without forgiveness, there is no hope.
Forgiveness releases YOU, not him. It's crucial that you understand this. Forgiveness is not condoning. It is a gift you give yourself, model for your children, and use as the mechanism for happiness on earth. Without forgiveness, you are nowhere my friend. Now, back to your post... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016