H has been seeing this Dr. since he was hospitalized for depression and suicidal ideation 3 years ago. He trusts him. I wish the Dr would help him to take control and ownership of his problems instead of (seemingly) also blaming me for H's feelings of loss of control of his brain and personality. Apparently OW "knows" just how he feels and is his "soulmate" that way, and wants to help him and I just "don't care." I think that she just says what he wants to hear, and, as she is mentally ill herself, she is not doing him any good at all. What am I supposed to do...apologize for not being mentally ill and able to deal with life, when they can't? I worry that if I don't get them apart, they will come up with a suicide pact because it's "romantic" and they will be "two souls together forever" and all that other dreck. Pardon me for being practical and trying to move forward with my life. For wanting my life and my H and our great M back and moving ahead instead of wallowing in their pool of "no one understands/wants to help me" self pity. Yes, I understand that depression is an illness, but two depressed self-centered people are not going to help each other much, if anything they are going to make each other worse.
