WNC: I'll bet you get lots of responses to this new thread. There are loads of folks, including me, who are sexually starved by their spouses and many of them are the midst of divorce as a way of ending the pain. But as for your questions. Why not? Well let me say that 19 years ago you made a vow. That vow was a promise. Sounds somewhat like a pious moral judement. You bet. How about an alternative, discuss the arrangement with both the affected spouses prior to the liasion? How do you think they would respond or react?
On the other hand I see this as a perfectly acceptable arrangement where everyone gets what they need. Or do they? There are all sorts of pitfalls for this sort of arrangement. One of the most serious is for you. You will have to come to terms with the quilt and shame eventually, you will be found out, what do you tell your kids, what sort of declination are you setting for their moral compass, how would you like the newspaper headline to read for your obit -- His penis conquered his brain.
Oh yes I can empathize with your frustration, having been married to the refrigerator for 23 years, I just wish I had your moxy. My problem is I have five young ladies to raise and I want them to always respect me and want a husband like me they can count on when times get tough. But what the hell, can your share any hot phone numbers -- no commitment just hot sex - I could use it. GEOBUCK
