I would think that your H would be able to con his C for a little while (sounds like he might be doing that maybe?), but that any decent C would be able to figure out that he is prob. not being honest. My H does that too, doesn't like to give the C info or be honest, and I don't get that. What is the point of therapy if you are being like that???!!!
My H also has blamed me for everything that goes wrong in his life (if he misses his keys or something, now his poor R with his kids). My C says that is a very difficult problem for people to fix/work on, and she seems pretty negative about that trait in my H being helped by counseling.
My H continues to have anger & blaming problems, and I have suggested he get a new C (he has been seeing this one for several months now supposedly) or maybe he should see the C more often (he only goes twice a month). If it is a new therapist in your H's case, maybe you should give it time and see if the therapist helps, and if not, you can suggest your H go to a new therapist. You know most therapists won't tell their patients whether a marriage is good or bad, or whether they should stay in it or not (unless there is abuse going on) so I wonder if your H is being honest with you that his C really said that or twisting something the C said also??? Karen
Karen