I've been married 19+ years and have tried about everything I can think of to get my wife more interested in sex. I've read relationship books and researched female sexuality in detail. The fact is that when we have sex, she loves the emotional intimacy and has great orgasms, and then she is satisfied for a long, long time.
She knows that I am much more sexual than she is, and she knows that it is painful for me to go without sex for weeks and sometimes months on end. And she can point to unfulfilled desires that she has, such as living on a farm or whatever, that she is content to just live with. So that is that, I have no comeback.
I have always been faithful, but I finally made the choice to look for a woman who would be interested in a no-strings, discreet, physical relationship. It didn't take long, I was surprised to find. She has been married for over 12 years and her husband has no drive whatsoever. She described to me her sexual frustration and it mirrors mine. She also loves her husband and has no desire to end the marriage; I feel the same about my marriage.
So last week I took the plunge and met her for an hour. We instantly connected and had ravenous, incredible sex for an hour. It was exactly what I had always imagined sex should be, I can't believe what I've been missing all these years.
And sleeping next to my wife that night was so relaxed and pleasant. She didn't have to push me away and I didn't feel frustrated.
So I have now just found this site because I was curious if other spouses have matched up this way. It seems like the perfect solution to my problems, but I guess I realize that I could also destroy my family should the truth come out.
But why should it be that way? Why is this type of relationship not allowed in society? Why can't this be the solution to sexual frustration? It feels like it is saving my marriage, not destroying it. So go ahead, please tell me why I am wrong (or right) and why.
It just seems like I am happier than I've been in a long, long time. Can this really be a bad thing I'm doing?
