Just a quick update. My WW is freaking out now. Last night when I came home, she said she couldn't pay for the cellphone bill (that she ran up talking to OM, and her enabler friend.) I just said I am not going to pay it. I have nothing left to talk to you about.
She was very angry, but I have my limits. Like I typed yesterday, I reached my limit of what I would tolerate.
When she said she wouldn't pay for her phone, I told her she is going to have to. After all, she can afford a second secret affair cell phone, why not this one? She denied it (of course.) So I got our my cell phone in front of her and called her secret affair phone, and left her a message on it. Busted!
Anyway, I won't get long winded here, but we talked for an hour or so. She asked me to go to counseling (first time ever) and I said no way. Not while you are still in a relationship with OM. She said AGAIN (broken record) that it is over with him, she isn't going to be with him, that they are only supporting each other during this tough time.
Obviously, that is not ok with me. Told her him or me. She has to decide by Sunday. I still have my atty appointment next and am prepared to file if she doesn't get her act together. I will accept nothing less than the half dozen things I have laid out fo her. I have been way too patient for way too long. She hasn't made a single step back toward the marriage since she is still in contact with OM. So, I am using this ultimatum as my last resort. Maybe this isn't the way to go, but I have no other choice on how to deal with my foggy WW.
Anyway, feeling good today. Making one last stand for our marriage and family. I will have a decision by Sunday. I hope I get to cancel my atty appointment, but honestly my expecations are low. If she can't commit, I will truly know I did everything in my power to make it work.
We use the word "detachment" around here a lot. I understand the concept, but now I KNOW what it FEELS like.
