My H has been having a full-blown EA with another woman for some time now, but we are still living together. He still denies the affair and has somehow managed to blame everything bad in his life on me. Its amazing how he can twist it all and find me at fault for everything. He says his psychiatrist (whom he sees once a week) says that this marriage is bad for him. I can't see how he can say that having never even spoken to me. I have told H that I want to talk to his psychiatrist, but he says that I can't, that I need to talk to a psychologist and find out why I'm so selfish and I don't want to help him through his depression like his OW. OW, by the way, suffers from depression herself, has affairs (both lesbian and heterosexual) on her husband, and as far as I can tell is with my H because he makes her feel wanted and loved. She will never willingly leave her H because she loves the money he makes (lots) and the money is more important than anything. My H works away from home and when he says he has to work extra days, I suspect he is spending them with her. I don't know what to do anymore. I would love to talk to his shrink and tell him what is really going on, someone needs to hear my side of the story. I think that these two mentally ill people are feeding off of each other and neither will ever be well as long as they're together, but thats just my opinion. Should I insist on seeing his psychiatrist?
