Popped in to read your thread. Our timelines are EXACTLY the same, our sitches are not. You are WAY ahead IMHO. ROCK ON!
PS: W saw early on how "hard" it was being a single parent, doing things without my help, even told me so. You can tell S it won't change W's response if you cut her loose completely.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.