Popped in to read your thread. Our timelines are EXACTLY the same, our sitches are not. You are WAY ahead IMHO. ROCK ON!
PS: W saw early on how "hard" it was being a single parent, doing things without my help, even told me so. You can tell S it won't change W's response if you cut her loose completely.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13