H is having affair after all

[Jen_Jam]

Something sprang to mind when you said you were anxious about H pushing you for decisions.
1. You have already asked for 4 weeks with him not pushing, so hold him to that
2. I'd like to introduce Passive Resistance. It's the art of fighting without fighting. You agree with words to what he says then do nothing. Teenagers are very good at this when you tell them to clean their rooms and they say "I will" and never do it. My H stated he wanted to sell our house (the very same one whose living room we have just finished redecorating ha ha)and I said OK but didn't visit ONE estate agent, didn't look at ONE advert for houses. He wanted to sell the house, I didn't. So I let him do the work, which amounted to nothing anyway. if I had disagreed with him and argument would have ensued.

One word of warning about passive resistence - it can backfire if someone is really determined, but the principle is if H is trying to make you do something you're really not comfortabel with or force you into doing any kind of paperwork for a D then you just don't do it. Let the WAS do the graft for the D, don't help them.