You are both right. Yesterday I noticed that I put myself in this situation. Yesterday was the first time he has actually come out and asked me for help...and it seemed really hard for him to do. I guess I always just do it.

I pay the car payment because my name is on the car and I don't want it to be late and mess up my credit. I make sure the rent is paid because I cosigned on the apt...and again I don't want to mess up my credit.

He should get a paycheck on Friday but it will only be partial, but after that he should be able to take care of his bills himself. We have talked a little about trading cars. My car payment is WAY cheaper than his and I get WAY better gas mileage. It wouldn't exactly be a good deal for me...but it is something I would be willing to do, so we'll see.

I did go to his apartment last night and wash clothes. I thanked him when I left and he told me it was the least he could do. I am beginning to think the reason for his withdrawing is because he doesn't feel like a "man". He feels dependent on me and maybe he feels he doesn't deserve to act like we are back on track just yet...if that makes sense. I will see in a couple of weeks when he is able to do everything himself. I am thinking his attitude will change, but if it doesn't...I think that will be the time for a serious talk about my needs in this R.

I got an email from a guy I used to work with today. He was telling me about work and said he really wished I still worked there..he even reminded me that I still have a house there if I wanted to come back. He told me my old boss is having a hard time and hasn't really been the same since I left. I did A LOT around there and really enjoyed my job (much better than this one). Anyway, knowing that I am missed was good for my PMA \:\) Honestly I never would have left there if it wasn't for the drastic difference in pay. I really do miss it.

Kris