yes actualy she would send me e-mail on myspace when this all started. I will wait and send her something on saturday. she will be at her parents for easter .. i will whish her a happy easter and explain how i have thought about what she said and ask her to plase show me when i did not respect and when i did.
or mabey i will just say happy easter on a text and let her make a move. she made the last phone call and seemed worried i was giving up. of course she also asked if i want to see other people. this could mean that yes she is seeing someone and wants that to be ok so she is not doing anything wrong. or it could mean she was actualy worried that i might leave her and wanted to makw surre i wasent.
man when all you hear is " im on a fence and i dont know how or if you fit in my life" or " my heart does not belong to you anymore" you might get a little detached. and when you say to your partner your on a fence as well sometimes because it seems like what im trying isent working you get jumped.
I feel for you man. This is so tough. I'm hateing it.
Time will heal us all and help us find our true loves, maybe our W maybe not. When i went out last night I saw so many happy lovely women with big smiles on there faces. That made me happy.
the thing my wife controls right now i keep hearing from our friends is she is unsure that she cant trust me. i did not cheet and i dont have a substance abuse problem. i am a better person in a lot of ways then i ever have been, but all she can replie is " how do i know, How do i know this is real, or if i can ever feel that way again?"
these are things that i cant control. there is no magic catch phrase i can utter that will turn on feelings for me. i can whish and i can pray, but, and i cry to say this. she just might be unable to let go of past hurts. i will stay this course. she is worth that to me.
Marcum, this is my W to a tee. I stopped telling her i have changed. She need to see it not be told it. She told me the other day that the true treeman is still down in there somewhere and he would return. I am such a better person now it is unreal. I have worked so hard on myself and am very happy with the changes with or without her.
i also wish there was a magic silver bullet that woulkd turn on her love for me, it will in time for both of us but the question is will we still be around? cheers
I guess i will be around. the pain comes and goes but i love my W. if its ended it will be her desision not mine. if a PA develpos then that is her desision not mine. I guess a PA or a D will be her way of showing she gave up.
well the strangest thing happned today. i texed my wife happy easter and she called be back and asked if i wanted tioo go to mass today. i said yes of course!! THEN SHE CALLED BACK AND CANCELLED. SHE EXPLAINED SHE DIDNT GO TO HER PARENTS TODASY BECAUSE SHE FELT SICK ABUT WAS HOPEING TO GO WITH ME.! oops caps anyway she said she felf super bad and we talked small talk for like 5 minutes. then before i went to work she sent me a text that said have a safe and good night. hmmmm im not going to assume anything but wow today was a good day
Maybe a quick call, just to see how her day was....NO R TALK. You end the call, not her.
What we all tend to do, after being bombarded with negative messages, is to jump on the first positive and play it to death. Then it gets them scared, they back off, we say "hey wait a minute, what about.....", they get cold and run for the hills and the cycle repeats.
I know, because I did it, way too many times. I don't do it hardly at all now, but I sure used to, even 2 weeks ago.
Be cool Marcum, don't scare her.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
