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Thanks Aud and Lodo, good advice from both of you. I'll take it to heart.

Yeah, they can feel like we always bringing the past into things. It's hard to know what to totally let go, and what needs to be addressed. They understandably feel that we'll never really forgive them and always bring up there transgressions. But maybe some of it does need to be brought out into the open, addressed, confronted, before it can be let go of. I don't know. I'm struggling with what to let go of, what I can let go of, and what I may need to confront and discuss with her.

Trust for me is easy in some ways. I'm surprised by how much my M/R are so back to "normal" - which obviously makes me nervouse, if normal wasn't good enough before. What I find I don't trust, at a very deep level, is that she won't hurt me again. I wish that if she wasn't sure about us, or is unhappy, or wants to be with the OM, she'd just do it, and let me get on with my life.

But these issues are small, compared to what they were, and compared to where many are in there sitchs.

But thanks guys. Again, good advice.