Letter from WAW after she flew to my city for talk

[GavinO]

GH31,

Wow, what a hard situation, she is saying one thing and appears to be doing another and actions speak louder than words as such, I don't mean that negatively.

Easier said than done bit detatch yourself from the situation, remember that you don't need her and you can be happy without her although I know (and you know) you will be happier with her.

Back off and see what happens, I backed off in my sit and since it appears she is comming to me more.

You are sensible to be wary, keep being very wary until there are some decent signs of recommitment, then you will need to resolve the issues that caused this.

Have a look through the WAW section, it provides a bit of an insight and also there are a number of stories where the WAW comes back to the LBS and the LBS becomes the WAW (role reversal) it is good to read these as you can see where WAW'a have caused themselves great pain by being WAW's in the first place, it also helps to identify the feelings and issues that may arise when you reconcile.

Also provides a bit of encouragement for you to detatch and wonder if you want to be with your spouse while they are like they are, it helps as then you can decide to hang in there because you want to rather than 'need' to.

Hang in there, detatch and don't give up.

Keep well

Gavin