Please help...need MLC advice

[tpaschal]

You are doing so well with the kids. I am very impressed with the prayers (even for OW? Wow-- that is just great that you can do that) and the talks that you are having. I see no way of handling this better.

Pam,

Thanks for your response. I'm gonna answer your questions in more than one post, cause I do tend to write novella length posts.

Praying for the OW? Oy---it's hard. It is kind of still in the "fake it" part of "fake it til you make it." Well, not exactly. Maybe. It's hard to say---it changes from one day to the next. Some days I pray for her because I mean it, some days I pray for her because I know I ought to. Ya know? I know God knows my heart, but I do believe that he wants me to pray for her, and if I DO it even when I DON'T want to, then it becomes easier for me to want to. Does that make any sense at all?

When the kids and I pray for her, we do keep it VERY simple. "Dear God, you know that we miss our Daddy very much. Please take care of him and keep him safe. God, you know that Daddy and the girl are making some choices and doing some things that make us sad. God, please help Daddy and the girl turn back to You and listen to You so that they will know what You want them to do with their lives."

D14 pretty much refuses to do the bedtime routine and prayers with us, so this is what S9 and D5 pray. (Along with all the thank you's for the beautiful day, and the nice rain that watered our flowers, and the fun time at dance class or soccer practice, etc., etc.---plus all the GodBlesses, of course!!)

It IS hard. I don't want them to be bitter against H or OW (okay, okay, yes I would be happier if they hated OW's guts!), but I do want to teach them that it is against God's Word.