Thanks - I'm okay with the current agenda but will push back if I feel like it. I'm going to continue practicing DB techniques because they make me a better person. Just because my W has poor values doesn't mean I do.
After I posted, I thought more about what she really said to me - "you deserve someone who can make you happy too." Does that just mean that she can only concentrate on herself? She does just think about herself during busy times like this and her family has confronted her with that issue. Or does it mean OM is making her happy? Whatever. I do deserve someone who makes me happy. But it is hard for me to see her R with OM as a lasting one and right now it seems like she's banking everything on that R. For some stupid reason I keep thinking she'll miss me and realize what she's doing, but at this point it feels like too much has happened to repair the damage.
It would probably be easier for her to buy me out on the house. Then I can be rid of it and set up my own space without having to worry about what happens to the house down the road. I'm going to push for her taking more of a hit, though, since the house sale is due to her lying and infidelity. We'll see how that goes over!
