H came over last night to spend some time with the kids. He was pleasant but withdrawn from me. I let him have his time with the kids while I piddled around the house. I cooked dinner and let him eat with the kids. I wasn't hungry so I cleaned the kitchen while they visited. He asked S4 if he had any questions for him. It was sad because S4 said he didn't want to talk to him about that stuff. H looked confused, so I told him I would talk with him before he left about it.
At the end of his visit I walked him out. We sat and talked for a few minutes about the kids. I told him that one of the problems in our marriage was his lack of communication, and that S4 knows that he is not comfortable talking about serious stuff. I don't think he wants to upset his dad with his feelings. I told H that it was fine with me if S4 only talked to me about it. I would rather him be talking to me than no one, KWIM? I told him that S4 had asked some tough questions like "Is Daddy ever coming home", and that I told him I didn't know. H said he didn't know either, but that I did good to answer the best I could.
After our convo I gave him some work clothes that I knew he needed. I had washed and folded them for him. He was appreciative. He told me goodbye and left. He DID ask me how I was doing though, so that was one of my little goals. I told him I was doing good. I think I did pretty good over the whole event. I didn't get upset, and I tried to stay upbeat and happy. I mainly focused on the kids and interacting as a family. Did I do OK? What do you guys think?
