Being OW

[Hope4us]

I'm with ya ROOT. My WW is very smart. In fact, she's smarter than she thinks, but early on in her "friendship" with OM I warned her constantly that a guy that lives 1000 miles from his wife year after year and only goes home every couple months if he's lucky has women on the side. I guaranteed her he did. And one of the guys WW works with warned her shortly after she started working there that OM was always fishin so watch out for him.

WW always used to say "I'm a big girl. I would end our friendship immediately if he tried anything". I guess I never imagined she'd be the one to try something.

Her learning from this is where my struggle is. I'm willing to give her all the time she needs to work her way through this, but I'm afraid that WW is such a bullhead that even if she figures it out she won't be able to admit it to me because she would then have to admit that everything she did and said to me was a LIE and a WASTE. It would take her admitting that I was right about him and their relationship all along, and she HATES it when I'm right. Might be the biggest stumbling block to saving our marriage.