(((sleeper, transformer, ali, OD, Kalni, Tree, momof2, a new 2morro and all other lurkers!)))
Well T had a bit of a break-through with BF initiating some contact, and I did too today!! Lets hope it comes in 3's and one of you are going to have a break-through too! Its crazy when you think you can't go any longer without some contact and then he rings!
H left a message on my phone about some building work he needs to do at the property I live at (but Mum & Dad own). I called him back when I got home from work and we chatted for 1/2 an hour.
He always sounds so crappy to start with, but when I'm smiling and happy he loosens up. I laughed heaps and was pretty funny so I'm pleased with my performance.
I dont think he has made any giant strides in re-considering his position though. He let me know that he has been out drinking, smoking and partying lots much to the disgust of his mum (I just laughed and said something like good for you - no mention of other girls but I'm sure they are around.... - at least he is mindful of my feelings not to mention them directly - that's a baby step in itself).
He talked about how he could rent the other house Mum & Dad own that is about 100 meters away from mine, or if I moved out of my house he could move in here. I just laughed and said I didnt think so! So he's missing our house (we rennovated it together). Is missing the house one step more than missing my sister's dog?
He said that about a month ago he went to visit his aunty and uncle and had a nice time but on his last day they really questioned what he was doing, and asked him about "stuff" (which I think meant stuff to do with me). His aunty and uncle are lovely people but quite religious and conservative, so I'm guessing that they might have given him the 3rd degree. And I think that it might have made him felt pressured - and hence why he has had no contact with me for the longest stretch.
He also mentioned his mum hassling him and telling him he needs to go to church.
I think I did a good job of being a safe haven and accepting tonight. I was pretty cool and supportive (he has no idea how much energy it takes). So hopefully he will feel safer with me and like I'm not judging him even if his family are?!?!
Unfortunately I'm not quick or saucy enough to think of casually dropping in corset fittings or tassles. I really dont know how to create those kind of openings!!
Thank you all for reading - its lovely to get if off my chest, to people who understand!
