sig other bday on 4 april

[buenosuerte]

I'm not sure how to go at this point. every year my h has a huge bday party, i'm sure he will have one this year as well. do i send him a card or do nothing?

Here's the sitch:

Been together for about 2 years, moved in quickly after meeting and a few months later we were trying to get pregnat 12 mos later our d now 6.5 months old is her. during my preg i had 3 deaths in my family, my gpa, mother and father all passes away while i was trying to NOT to have miscarriage with all the stress and dispair. we seperated a few times during that period and come back together for d's birth. he lived with us for a few weeks after that and has been gone now 6 mos. during seperation we used to talk, now NOTHING. he says he's angry, doesn't look at me the same, tells me to do nothing, let him come to me, all the while he doesn't visit with his daughter. in 6 mos he's seen her about 20 times, says he can't go into the home we shared together, can't have me at his house, (daughter is breast fed and won't take bottle) we've made agreements about money, none of which he has kept, agreed to have my teaching contract broken so i can stay home with our daughter and he was going to provide for us, none of it is happening but a few times. i've done the letters, crying all of it, some has made it so we'd talk and work on things but it gets going to fast and his mother chimes in with her opinion. i made it clear when we were trying to get divorced that i was not going to have another child unless both parents raise it together no matter what. I have another daughter 16 from previous marriage and she's all messed up with the both house traveling and custody, etc...i'm trying to believe what my heart says that he will come back if i back off enough but have so many pending sitch going on. i'm going ot have to return to work in a few months, sign a contract, move, get rid of my dogs, put our daughter in daycare(i'm totally opposed-hate the thought and have so much guilt around it) in probate over 1 of my mother's home, it just goes on. i don't have any friends no support whatsoever and don't know which way to turn.