Did you really just say.. He has N*C? Wait.. I should tone that back.
NIHTFI = No Idea How To Fix It.
OMG Becky.. She has fallen prey to.. What others think.
Here sgctxok.. I'll push a little. He is not gonna hear you.
People will show you the way..
M from Tennessee ...
"I don't put her first"
Trust in that. If she is saying it.. Listen to it.
"I was a nice guy with a big heart and still am. I'm pretty opinionated and am not afraid to say what I'm thinking which can be very bad sometimes."
You have the "good will".
"I feel I have always put her first by making sacrifices for her..building the house she wanted, where she wanted, I changed my work schedule and took a cut in pay because she wanted me home at night. I drive 53 miles daily one way to work so we can live where we do. I feel like I sacrificed for her by getting the surgery, raiding my 401K to get the money to do it..Some of that may be selfish on my part..but it's how I feel sometimes."
I feel ya. I see the sacrifice. You were not speaking her language. That had DAM all over it.
"I'm not the same guy that I was you change through the years"
Liar. You are exactly who you were. You would give anything. Sacrifice it all. You just don't understand how she can't see it.
"I know I contributed to getting us here by my actions and inactions."
This is a huge stepping stone. Now you posted. You got my vote. What do you need to do to make this better. Or.. What do you need to do to "fix" it.
You did take advantage of the wife in expecting her to always be here. Thats ok. You have to realize she may not always be. She does not have to stay. You have been there and done that.
If you have been there and done that. Why! are you doing it again.
"she told me at Christmas that she suffered from postpartum depression but did not tell me until 20 months after my daughter was born and I had no idea...she acted the same as she always did."
Are you really gonna tell me you had "no idea". Or did you spend almost 2 years trying to figure out how to "fix" it?
She is showing you the way. Your "Little Voice" is talking to you.
Don't let the "emotion" take that away.
"Love is patient, love is kind...love never fails."
Hmmm...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
