Wow. So you have a lot of information. And you are also trying to take care of EVERYTHING at once.
Women tend to say everything on their minds with their complaints. What you want to do is make sure with each complaint that you understand HOW important each one is to her. This is so that you aren't doing eleven things that have the importance of a 3 on a scale of one to ten, when you could do two 9's and she would be crazy in love with you again. Because if you do the eleven 3's and she's still complaining to you, you are going to burn out.
You mentioned you are a good person but you are opinionated. I am too. And a while ago I received feedback that it makes some people think I don't listen to them. Actually, I do. But it isn't the impression they get. So I've changed that. I give them 'more time' to talk. Even if they say the same darned thing over and over again. I ask them if they have any more thoughts or feelings about that. Ask them questions to discover more about what they are talking about. I don't like doing that. The things I have opinions about I've researched and thought through them a lot. But it works to do this. And I hold my tongue more. They don't have to know that I know what I know. Get it?
I'm sure you've done it. But you could probably do more of it. We women LOVE to be listened to.
I think the more you do that, you will find out how important each complaint is for her, and you may find ways to help her through her depression. One caution...don't offer her advice. Help her to offer herself some advice.
What do YOU think about what I just said?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
