If they don't pursuit you or put in the effort, don't even waste your time!
Absolutely!! Take that advice Hope, it's very good.
You have to date like you're trying on a dress. Some will be "okay" some will suck, some will show potential. It takes a while to find the right one.
Also, change your mindset from "what am I doing wrong?" to "are they good enough for ME." YOU are shopping around. YOU are giving THEM the chance to prove to you that theya re good mate material and if they show you right off the bat that they are unmotivated and cannot woo you, then they are only going to get worse.
Thanks for the great advice whitelight, Althea, and yoyo.
I've heard so many people tell me what I need to do or not to do, but the truth is that I want...no I need to be pursued. I deserve that. I don't care if it is 2008 there are still traditional men out there.
I do have one more thing to add....if I hear "you are sooo beautiful, you won't have any trouble finding someone" one more time...I think I'm going to scream. I think people are just trying to make me feel better, but honestly I just want someone who appreciates me for me...I've got so much more to offer than just a pretty face.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
I do have one more thing to add....if I hear "you are sooo beautiful, you won't have any trouble finding someone" one more time...I think I'm going to scream.
..the truth is that I want...no I need to be pursued. I deserve that.
Hope - I feel the same way. I talked about this with my IC waaaay back last summer. I also have the need to be pursued and have been made to feel like that was some sort of a negative "princess" thing by stbxh. But, now I think we both deserve to be pursued and treated like we are truly special
Sounds like you are doing great with the dating scene.
It's been a crazy couple of days. I was supposed to meet bach #4 in a few weeks when we went on a triple date with the people setting us up. To make a long story short...he found me on myspace and wanted to meet beforehand. Anyways, we met up this weekend. He's the kind of guy that I'm looking for and so far so good. I even got up enough courage to ask him to go as my date to a wedding next weekend and he said yes. He's originally from the same area as me, but moved away after high school and just moved back recently. We went out around home this weekend, and the way people looked at us....you would have thought we were celebrities. Before we walked in, I said are you ready for this....he said yes, let's do this thing :-) Later in the evening, he jokingly said to me....next time you want to meet in St. Louis. This was a huge step for me....first time being out with a guy around home....and even bigger step since he's a guy from there. I think he's kind of in the same boat...he said no one is used to seeing him with a girl around home. This wedding will be another huge step.
One more funny thing, we met Friday night and after a couple of hours of chatting...I turned and saw Bach #3....yes, the one that told me that I was too old two weeks ago. Small world I guess...I talked to him a bit, but it was a little awkward.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
