I had my 2nd meeting w/ the parenting evaluator today and found out W had been there yesterday. W told the evaluator that ever since Grace was born I was overwhelmed as a parent, spent more and more time at school, and constantly screamed at W while at home.
I told the evaluator that was somewhat true, but not an accurate picture as we didn't fight all the time. He later told me that people will always say things are awful when they leave a relationship or a situation, so he takes those types of comments w/ a grain of salt.
I also found out that on the advice of her L, W called the evaluator on Friday to express her concerns that I may be inappropriately touching D. The evaluator told me he can't give advice, but told W if this charge goes to CPS and they come back that it is unsubstantiated it will reflect poorly on her.
We discussed the seriousness of W's allegations and what it could mean to me professionally. I said "I don't know why she's doing this" and he replied, "Yes. You do." That gave me the confidence to believe he may not have been too swayed by W's 1st appearance. I hope she reflected poorly. The evaluator also said that if this seed is planted in D's head now at an early age, she could end up being scarred later in life b/c she would come to believe that I did molester, even when I didn't. He didn't seem too happy at all that this card was played.
I told him some very personal things and he thanked me at the end for being honest and forthright w/ my information. I also told him he is free to look at all my counseling records and I had told my counselor that he'd be contacting him soon. I think he likes the fact that I'm not trying to BS him or hide anything. Again, I don't think W can say the same thing.
We also talked about how difficult it is to care for someone who is in chronic pain as I did w/ W's endometriosis. He could understand how I felt b/c he treated terminally ill patients and even said "people can't understand how difficult it is to be the one in the caretaker position unless you've been there, so I understand." Again, that should help me.
He told me that under no circumstances should D's words be taken as the gospel truth and that if either of us try to use her as a tool we'll suffer for it in his ruling. I expressed my concern for D being in the middle of this mess and I was concerned about her being biased against me. He seemed to agree that a bias was already occuring.
So, it went pretty well. In fact, I go back tomorrow to take the 560+ True/False test. That should be fun! It will take me 2-2 1/2 hours to complete, but I'm ready to go for it tomorrow afternoon.
W and I have e-mailed today. She sent three seperate e-mails: 1) asking if I want D Thursday and Friday; 2) talking about dividing up the furniture (we both want the exercise bike -- it is a $2500 bike and I can't run); and 3) to tell me it was ok to have our normal tax man do our taxes, that I can contact the realtor I asked about on Sunday, and through out the idea of having a moving company move her stuff to her apartment. The tones were civil, but who the Hell knows what goes on in that head right now? I sure don't.
I wonder if her session yesterday w/ the parenting evaluator shook her up a bit or at least let her know that 50/50 is a very realistic option for her to have to deal with in the near future. However, I'm still bracing for the "smoking gun" she thinks she has on me. I don't have a clue what it could be, but I'm pretty sure she'll be trying something since her last desperate measure didn't pan out.
