Jeff, maybe if you think of what you want in your wife, it will help you think about what she wants in her h. Have you changed over the years? If so, in what ways? Do you think what she wanted in a h has changed? Just some thoughts to get you going. Hope it helps. And dont think I have forgotten our project of cleaning up the bedroom. I am cutting you some slack because you are not feeling well and I know you are concerned. Once you get that clean bill of health, and I know you will, we are starting it up again.
In the meantime, try to take care of yourself. Eat right, get enough sleep and get some exercise. And really think about the possibility that you might be depressed. And who wouldnt be living as you are? I could tell you first hand that depression can cause physical illness. I know how hard it is for men to face the possibility of going to a therapist, but that might be just what you need. Doesnt make you weak - in fact, it is just the opposite - it takes a strong person to admit they might need a little help. Just some thoughts - I hope you dont mind.
(((((Donna))))) Hmmmmm, lots of thoughts, and good ones! I don't mind!
It has been forever since I have though about what I would want in W. I can hardly even get my head around the question, which is absurd. How about a woman that would respect me, as a partner. Someone that would appreciate me, and allow me to appreciate her. A companion. I can think of a lot of negative "unwants", but I think that going negeative is the wrong direction, so I will start with these, and see what develops. Have I changed? I don' tthink so, but I am sitting in the wrong place to see ot very well. Which makes me think that what she wants has changed, or that she married me hoping I would change to match a vision she had, and I have not. Could that be?
I know we have to finish the bedroom. I don't have work Friday, so I think that will be the time to finish it off, at least the first wave, to get it habitable by someone of the female persuasion, if that in fact happens. Then, after the health stuff is taken care of, I'll go for the next wave, and the **dramatic music** closet!
I think you may be right about depression, and I am going to call. I would like to get the biopsy out of the way first before I add that to my plate, but I have promised you all I would do it! I think I may have given the wrong answer when W ask if I though I was depressed! "Duh" seems so much more appropriate! But, I know that I can't blame her for my feelings, even if it is her fault! I let things get like this, so I have to take the responsibility in an equal measure I think.
I let things get like this, so I have to take the responsibility in an equal measure I think.
