Every time tings get to this point, he says something, and draws you back in, but he has never done a thing to back it up. What is this, the fourth time, at least, I think.
This is EXACTLY what happened in my sitch, too. I filed for the D, H would make those empty promises, say the things I longed to hear, and I would always end up delaying the court date.
And nothing still ever happened.
UNTIL I LAID DOWN THE LAW, MY BOUNDARIES. UNTIL I SAID THIS IS WHAT WILL HAVE TO HAPPEN IF HE WANTED BACK IN. NO IFS, ANDS, OR BUTS. THIS IS HIS LAST CHANCE. THERE WILL BE NO OTHER. I STOOD MY GROUND, I AM STILL STANDING FIRM, AND HE KNOWS IT.
No more cake-eating for GF's H.
I did not take the D completely off calendar; I asked for a continuance. This was for my peace of mind. I knew by doing this I wouldn't have to wait another 4 - 6 months for another court date should the R fall to pieces again.
Emily, you can take into consideration all the wonderful advice everyone here and at home gives you, but only YOU can make the decision that is right for YOU. No one knows what Emily really wants. No one can decide for her. Only Emily can do that.
Stay strong.
Last edited by GoingForward; 03/25/0811:49 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
