Emily - You're not a WAS. You're just setting some clear, appropriate boundaries. This guy has fathered TWO illegitimate children while "claiming" to want to stay married to you. His ACTIONS have never matched his words, so why would you listen to his words any more? His ACTIONS say he is NOT going to step up to the plate and be the man you deserve. He's weak, weird, has issues, or just figures he'll have to pay you more if you divorce him. Who cares?
He's not honest. He's not trustworthy. He's not someone your kids can look up to. He's not someone you can count on. His drama sucks the light out of your life.
Just move on already. There is SUCH a better future for you out there, I just know it.
