Her main complaints are that I am not a family man. She says I am a bachelor at heart. She says I don't help out enough around the house, don't help with our daughter. Don't pay enough of the monthly expenses. I don't put her first..Some of that is true and I have changed all that since Christmas..Dinner is now waiting for her when she comes home, I do the laundry, I'm working my tail off and she notices the changes but is it to late? I keep telling myself, don't give up..but it's difficult. I get up with our daughter on weekends but due to my work schedule it's hard for me to do that through the week. I'm at home with my daughter on my birthday because my W had late work meetings in another city. I'm fine with that. I'm having fun with my daughter 2 is a cool age.
I have had real problems with her mother and her mother with I. Her mother is very controlling and uses guilt to get her way..I have a real problem with being guilted about things. Ask me to do something, I'm good, guilt me there's a problem.
I was a nice guy with a big heart and still am. I'm pretty opinionated and am not afraid to say what I'm thinking which can be very bad sometimes. I feel I have always put her first by making sacrifices for her..building the house she wanted, where she wanted, I changed my work schedule and took a cut in pay because she wanted me home at night. I drive 53 miles daily one way to work so we can live where we do. I feel like I sacrificed for her by getting the surgery, raiding my 401K to get the money to do it..Some of that may be selfish on my part..but it's how I feel sometimes..I always felt marriage was about making sacrifices but I don't know if that's correct now or not. I'm not the same guy that I was you change through the years, but I feel like I can change and get some of the good qualities, that she fell in love with, back. So I'm doing more, contributing more, trying to be her friend, trying not to push or talk to much about us.
The baby issue really started us on this path I think..She really got angry because she had to wait longer because of me and has never forgot it or things that were said during fights we had about the baby...she reminds me of it every chance she gets...
