ADVICE Giving and Receiving

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These are GREAT discussions....and I love the way they are presented, heartfelt, respectful, insightful.


We ALL want our relationships to be wonderful and we ALL want each other to be happy and feel cared for....and we want each other to be emotionally healthy.

I'm curious. If you don't mind sharing, what types of abuse did you deal with that made you decide it was time to give up?


Ok...I'll share. THIS IS NOT DB ADVICE:

In a nutshell....I was married 10 years. I've been divorced almost 14 years. I came here 2 relationships later.

There was LOTS of verbal and emotional abuse and a small amount of physical and sexual abuse. This was all pre-DB. HE categorizes me as MLC/WAW....depending on his mood. And the truth is I also was a WAW. ..(he's bipolar, so the abuse was not constant at least the first few years).....


My kids, especially my oldest has really suffered, largely due to the divorce.


My testimony..... I have seen God's miracles in my life as well....and ... I have seen lives changed here. Not the ones you think either necessarily. Gottman says he can predict divorce by using a lot of biological signs (like bloodpressure). That may be true. Michele says we cannot predict. I believe that to be true.

We often hang in 'crowds' on the board.....people who tend to vent together tend to not be as successful. So they think marriages are not saved. They will say they don't see many successes on the board. People who stay solution oriented....tend to see the success.