Me too and thanks for your insight. I can not begin to tell me how much saner it makes my life when I read stories like yours. Makes me feel like I am not in some strange episode of the Twilight Zone all by myself.
I can tell you that my 180's and going dark have had an effect on her. She knows that she hurt me and has said things like she knows I don't want anything to do with her. I don't think she has changed her mind but the fog is lifting a bit. She is the one initiating all of the contact at this point. I am trying to detach but am not sure if it will be a complete detach. I try to think about the best things for my kids too, but sometimes the pain and anguish of what she has done overshadows even that. I am glad I have God to work on my conscience.
