I hate to admit it, but, I'm rather enjoying having the whole bed to myself, snuggled in a cocoon of the featherbed below and the down comforter above. I can watch tv without earphones and log on to the laptop whenever I like. Meanwhile, the dog requests a 2 a.m. walkie from H by barking in H's face.
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
About the wedding ring, why not just stop checking if it's there or not?
Well, the wedding rings once had an eternal/mystical connection. I only removed mine when I had surgery on my left wrist and he only removed his when he was to have another type of surgery. Both times we touched fingers and slipped the ring from one's finger to the other's finger. Now, knowing that he is treating it as simply piece of jewelry, it has lost it's connection between the present, and that time long ago when it was placed on his finger. (So many people who were in attendance at our wedding have now passed on that in some way the rings and the continuity were a time machine back to that day in August.)
A rather amusing story is that of my parents who have been married 67 years. When I was a child my father would show me his ring and say that the only way that his ring would ever be removed from his hand would be if someone cut off his finger. Around 8 years ago my parents had a huge argument and he took off his ring. He replaced it a few months later and then asked my mother if she knew why he had removed it. He was quite deflated when she told him that she had not noticed that he had not been wearing it.
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
Regardless if he's lying or telling the truth, you know him better than anyone else in the world.
I know,Gypsy, we both have been intimately connected with them for longer than anyone else in our lives. We have considered them our life-partners and it was such a short time ago that recent events would have been inconceivable. As you know, I cope by comparing the situation to the shock I would have felt if he had been taken from me by death. It does provide solace to know that he is still of this earth and there is a chance that he will re-join the relationship, and, that if he does the relationship will be stronger and more rich than before.
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
I've always been a dog with a bone, gnawing and holding onto it during tough times. This personality trait has been helpful when persistence is needed.. but with this whole unbelievable situation.. it's just not good.
Gypsy, we could be twins on this. That is the quality that H both loved and hated about me. Oddly, he is placing OW on a pedestal and characterizing her as being "determined".
Originally Posted By: Gypsy
If I behave in a fashion which reflects the good and true in me, then .. heck.. I'm just a swell person! And that's worth taking to the bank.
Truer words were never spoken, YOU are the best.
((((Gypsy)))) to you!
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
