The crumb and cookie analogy really about taking some little signal, some small thing that is said or done and making a lot more out of it then it really is. A good example is my wife quickly accepted a dinner invitation last night. I could immediately start thinking that this means she's thinking reconciliation, what other reason would she have to accepting so quickly. Well that's what I'd like to think but reality is her reasons are probably nowhere near that strong. It could be she is just looking for a nice dinner. It could mean she's just trying to be nice to me. In other words I have NO IDEA what it means and I can't make any assumptions or have any expectations of it.
So what are my expectations for Thursday? Simple, a good meal, good company and good conversation. I honestly am expecting at best 2 out of 3 on it. I am not expecting anything more than a nice night out and a good meal. If I expect anything more I am setting myself up for disappointment and putting too much pressure on her. It's a very tiny baby step at best and just a meal with someone I happen to know at worse.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
