Affair is over and WW is responding

[Hope4us]

Well, I don't know what to think. Got home and WW had made our favorite family dinner. It was good. I don't have any illusion that she made it for me specifically, but it was nice none the less. I then went out with a couple of friends, one from my old hometown. Just told WW that I was going out for a bit. When I got home she was upstairs watching T.V. so I watched a DVD with DS19 until about 10:00. WW came down stairs and was in a pretty good mood. She went out to smoke and I went to bed without saying good night or anything.

This morning first thing I get an email from her. It was work related, but it was something we had talked about early last week and she made an effort gathering information to send to me when she didn't have to.

She then sent me an email a little later talking about our finances. I think I mentioned before that she never had a problem with me handling all our finances, but since the Affair she has suddenly realized that she wants to be directly in control of at least part of her paycheck (her own personal account). I'm fine with that. No problem at all. She made a suggestion on moving some of her pay check to a separate account (after her contribution to the bills). I'm ok with that except what she wants to move to a separate account is almost all of her paycheck after the bills. I feel like if she wants to be in control of her money she should also pay her portion of the groceries, pay for her own haircuts ($130 every 6 weeks) and her portion of the kids expenses. So I told her we needed to talk about how that was going to work tonight.

Maybe I'm reading things wrong and she's just planning her exit strategy by saving up money in a separate account, but it seems like she's got past her funk of later last week and is re-engaging again.

I was posting on another website and a couple of people there think she is just going to keep playing me until she can make her exit. I keep trying to tell them that her affair has only been over for 7 weeks (at least in her mind) and I just need to give her some more space to figure this out herself. They keep telling me I should tell her to recommit to the marriage or move out and I just don't feel that is the smart move right now. If she's responding slowly but surely (baby steps), why force the issue?

Maybe that's why I've been gravitating more to DB lately than the other website forum. DB just seems to be more in line with what I think is needed in my sitch then the other site.