Breathe. I know it's hard and it hurts, but breathe. I'm afraid I wouldn't be any help with the legal stuff (I'm not there), but if he agreed to see a C, how about an e-mail asking if he wants to set it up or if he'd prefer you did? I like text and e-mail b/c I can keep it to just the facts and right now I really don't feel like interacting with him. As far as who the kids see, did they like the C they saw before? I don't see any reason to start over with someone new, but I don't have a background in this. Perhaps a call to the C to get their input.
With regards to the realtor you could say you haven't yet, but it on the list and then pose the question about the C.
It's hard to talk to the kids about what's going on in a way that doesn't blame. I use reflective listening when I can. D's have not been very forthcoming with regards to how they feel about all of this. I wound't expect them to, after all they are teenagers. I use books, movies and whatever comes to mind that has a topic that I can use to spark a convo about it. Then I ask then how they feel about it and so far I haven't gotten much, but I do get glimmers here and there. Just acknowleding how much they miss him and how sad it is (and asking how they feel), may be a place to start. The C is good too esp if they need/want it.
