H is having affair after all

[Jen_Jam]

Eve ... sounds like you're in "standing still" mode. Sometimes this can be a good thing, at least it's not going backwards.

You have had a heck of a shock to take in, it's natural to reel a bit. I assume the anger has abated a bit, now is the "what do I do?". Well ... take care of yourself. Forget H for a bit and concentrate on you.

And flirtation .. yes that WAS, and a nice one too. Enjoy it. Of course, you won't start a R with someone else, just accept the complments when they come along. I got chatted up one night, we were out in the pub and H had his constipated face on, I left him to it and got chatted up. It felt GOOD. I didn't enjoy it cos I felt validated, it was a nice time out from having to watch everything I said and did, i could just relax and be me. You can get that without flirting too .. I had girls nights out, went out a LOT, just to feel like I was ME and didn't have to consider every word before I said it.

Take it easy, do one of my favourite passtimes - Chilax! it's a cross between chilling out and relaxing Concentrate on the here and now and let the future take care of itself.