oh so complicated

[Hope4us]

Let me tell you a quick story in my sitch. After I exposed my WW and OM's affair to his wife we began talking, almost daily due to the fact that she and OM live 1000 miles apart (OM lives ~250 miles from us) so I knew more about what he was doing than she did. We were doing our best to know what was going on and bust them up.

Well I can tell you that there were a few times when I found myself beginning to desire her. She even commented once that she wished we were able to talk in person. I told her that would be dangerous. And I was right. She began to become dependent on me and if I had to guess it probably almost became an EA for her. Once I realized that it might be starting to be an EA (the flirting TM's started between us) I had to put a stop to it. I felt myself starting to think less of saving my marriage (what I really want) and more of what it would be like to be with her (because I was lonely).

We still trade emails a couple of times a week but I've realized that she really isn't someone I'd be interested in if I was single and out dating. It was nothing more than the circumstances that made her attractive to me. Someone that would listen to me and knew what I was feeling. That was a real eye opener to me. I realized that minute how WW got in the position she's in. Now I never crossed the line, but I don't know if that makes me better than WW or not. If OMW would have been in my area, I can almost guarantee something would have happened that would not have been right.

Don't date anyone while you're still married. It's not giving your marriage a fair shake and you won't be able to make a rational judgement concerning the person you're going out with because you're lonely and vulnerable.