Neecy, I think there's a difference between doing those things because YOU want to do them, and because you genuinely want to please him, rather than doing them because you either FEAR him or you fear LOSING him.
I had to learn that it was okay to LOVE my wife, but not okay to NEED her. Nobody wants a needy person.
Yes, do everything to the best of your ability, and for yourself, and to glorify God, if you're so inclined. But don't do it for your HUSBAND. The only thing you are commanded to do is love and respect unconditionally. Everything else must be EARNED, and I don't think he's earned much more than that (in fact, he's lucky to get even "love and respect"!!)
