OK so that call last night went downhill pretty quickly. S4 asked if he could call and tell Daddy goodnight. So I let him call. I didn't get on the phone at all. S4 got REALLY upset on the phone the second time. It was heart wrenching. I am a child of divorce, so I know what he is going through. I'm just not sure H gets it. He was bawling and begging H to come home. Asking him why he didn't want to live here anymore. Telling him that he missed him ALOT. It was so sad. I just sat and held S4 for a while after he got off the phone. I then asked if he wanted to talk about it, and he did. He asked basically the same questions he asked H, only I actually answered them instead of changing the subject. The only question I had a hard time with was this....
S4: Daddy is moving to a new house, right? Me: That's right. S4: Why is he doing that? Me: Daddy just needs some time away from Mommy right now. He isn't moving away from you. You will still see him TONS. S4: How much time does he need to live in the new house? Me: I don't know, sweetie. S4: Mommy, is Daddy EVER coming home? Me: I really don't know.
I wish I could have told him that Daddy would be home in 6 weeks, but it just isn't looking that way.
I called H today to talk to him about it. I told him that I thought S4 needed a little extra Daddy time. I thought maybe he could see the kids tonight. I left it to him how he wanted to handle it. He said he would come by the house and spend some time with them tonight. I said that would be fine. We also decided to switch up our visitation schedule from every other weekend and Wednesdays with H to every other WE and alternating Tues. and Thurs. with H. That way the kids don't go any longer than 4 days without seeing H, and they go no more than 3 days without seeing me.
I will try to keep my PMA while H is there this afternoon. I think it is a good thing that he suggested seeing them at the house. That means he isn't opposed to seeing me in a family setting. This is an improvement. Wish me luck!
