Shades, I am so torn for you...I am in the same boat...MLM's second cousin died and I am the one going to the funeral...not for him but for his cousin's mother...who I am close to and who has prayed for me and MLM to reconcile and I just love her! Even though she is HIS first cousin. I am going to pay MY respects to HIS family. Even if MLM went with my Dragon-in-Law/OW I would STILL go.

Still, this is a tough call for you but you have made a good compromise, I think and I dont blame you for not wanting to add any more firewood to the already flaming inferno that is the drama of your STBX and his parents...

I commend you on your decision! You are a lady as always....

Hugs,
Vali

Aug '06: H moved out
July '08: H had a kid with the OW
May 12 '09: emancipation day

"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller