moving from MLC- It's Lisa

[faithisbelieving]

Dear Lisa,

I've never posted to you before but I happened onto your thread and I just want to say that I am so sorry that some immature man with no character or integrity decided to use physical force against you. He deserves to be where he is. This was not you Lisa and never even doubt that. It takes amazing courage to try and save your marriage...even MORE courage to stay when others tell you to bail. That's strength. That is faith. That is commitment. That is integrity. Never EVER think that you deserved that NOR that you caused it.

I also wanted to let you know that you are NOT ALONE in your decision to divorce. We all came here to save our marriages but that really takes two people with the same goal. One person, over the long run, cannot do it alone. Being here is important..you get support when you need it most. We help each other to get to a point where we can maximize our skills to save an ailing M. Sadly, as even Michele says in her books, not every marriage can be saved. Kubler-Ross wrote a book called Death: The Final Stage of Growth. Similarly, divorce is the final stage of a dying marriage. We support our family members...both in the final stages of life....and in divorce.

I know I don't have any DB relationship here with you...but...I hope it helps for you to know that I care about what happened to you and it broke my heart. Everyone tells me that with each day, 'it gets better'. I know the same will happen to you. One of my supporters, frank_d, once sent me a three word email and ya know something.....funny...it was probably one of the most uplisting pieces of advice I've received in the last two years;

You'll be OK

Lisa....your going to make it. Stay strong. My thoughts are with you and you are NOT alone.
You're going to be OK.
God bless you.
FIB (Frank)