Jak, I sent my W an email telling her that I want to start a vacation account, in which we put aside an amount monthly. The goal would be to keep at least $1000 in it for when the desire to take a vacation occurs. This would lower my resistance to taking vacations, when she brings the topic up.
She says that the ball's in my court regarding taking a vacation. She wants me to come-up with ideas that I'm comfortable with. I told her that we will need to be flexible and creative.
We've taken beach vacations to Miami in the past, and resort vacations to the Carribean. Her priority is to be on a beach. My priority is that it's affordable, and that we don't pay for it with a credit card.
I'm thinking of exploring some beaches along the eastern seaboard--Virginia, North Carolina. I'm thinking of a driving vacation; flying is so expensive these days.
The stress over the weekend was largely due to our purchasing a new computer for my bedroom. I was having trouble getting on the internet, and it took a fair amount of time troubleshooting the problem. We ended-up having our electrician doing some rewiring. Installing new computers are never trouble-free.
I signed-up for another six weeks of group lessons on my own. My W and I take group lessons on another night. I've discovered that I need at least one weekly activity per week apart from my W. Group dance lessons aren't terribly expensive ($14/week), so I feel justified taking them. I would love to take some private lessons, but can't justify that with the financial stress my W is having.
We'll see if she's willing to partner with me on the vacation and financial issues.
CL
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