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[AliSuddenly]

Hey T !

Its easier to spot beginnnings of transits than endings. The timing of the Saturn Retun ending is very hard to spot..its kind of a gradual maturing process as you move into your 30s, nothing dramatic (as opposed to eclipses, or Uranus transits that can hit with sudden speed). So please dont be concerned about July..I think I said that in the email and attached notes, and that I wouldnt advise waiting that long either.

I'm also a little suprised that you said:-Nov 1: At the appointed time for us to have our next conversation, I tell him I'm not ready to talk to him and will contact him when I am. I have not called him since.
If I were your BF, I would have interpreted that as you not caring in some way, or not wanting to fight for it, or just accepting it, or being angry..or I dont know! I just wanted to raise that, as I was surprised that after such a momentous conversation the day before (?) at the bomb..you just left it there and never took the opportunity to talk to him again. I would have been consumed with questions! Were you afraid to speak to him again, in case you belied your emotions or pain? But have you thought about what effect, or what message that would have sent him that you never replied? I think this affects how you approach him now.

So having said that, I definetly think sending him a present, cold, after all this time, when you dont know where he lives, is too much. Its just too full on. Put yourself in his shoes, you've heard not a word from your ex for 6 months, then a book turns up out of the blue? Wouldnt that freak you out? It would me! I'm only trying to honest, to help you! I sense we all want to be gentle with you, this is a big deal...

I think you should look again at the Moon-Pluto stuff I wrote to you, as essentially, this is about control and controlled emotions...you took the decision to not speak to him when you had the chance, then lots of time goes by and now you are hoping that he will respond positively to a thoughtful gift from you. But you didnt leave it on a good note, so I think you just need to reestablish some civil contact first?

Why dont you just give him a call, or like Lisa said, email him? That would be more normal a thing to do with a friend you had fallen out with - in fact, think of it like that, he was a best friend, you had a bust up and havent spoken for 6 months. Would you send a present? Or just a card or letter or email saying hi?

Dont forget your great advice to others...before you can reconcile you have to get past the angry stage and be friends. And then you move to stage 3, romance. Well I reckon thoughtful presents are of the romance variety, not friends (unless it is his birthday) and you arent at the friendship stage yet? In fact, its his birthday in May isnt it? So how about trying to reestablish contact somehow before then, get talking, find out where hes working/living and then send him the book as a birthday present come May time??

I hope this helps, even if I am "swimming against the tide" of opinion here ! But ultimately, you know your BF best, you know your sitch best and yuo should follow your own intuition about what to do as you need only be answerable to yourself then...

Ali xxx