My story, please help

[GavinO]

Ok update time,

Friday
Spent a bit of time together in the morning before she went out, just general chat stuff. She came back later and we chatted some more, she asked me to help zip her dress up a couple of times (dress she was wearing for the wedding the following day)- she looked fantastic!she also made a card for the wedding and aksed my opinion on a few bits (signed it her name only). She then went out to one of her friends. When she came back invited me into 'her' room for a cigarette and a chat, & we had a nice chat while I was sat on the bed next to her.

Saturday
Got up early and sat with her on the sofa (she sat next to me for a change) & we chatted for a bit, mt brother in law picked her up and came to the door while she was in the bathroom so I spoke with him briefly 'I don't want a divorce, unnessisary etc' Then they left to go to the wedding up north, W said she would text when they left, which she did and it included a x on it (first x since Jan!) I was in bed and asleep when she got back at 00:45.

Sunday
Went downstairs and she sat on the sofa opposite but came and sat right next to me (touching entire side) to show me the pics, after she sat on the opposite sofa again, we were going to have breakfast but she didn't feel like it. She said the wedding was nice but she found it hard especially when 'my girl' was played as that was our first dance song. she then went out to see her sister and said that she was staying at her parents that eve.

I saw my brother in law that evening at a B'day party and spoke with him a bit. He said that she seems to be thinking about it a bit more but also seems determined to go on with it. He said that maybe her starting her new job and moving to her parents for a few weeks may bring some reality to her, he confirmed that there was no one else as W's twin sister had asked directly. He He agrees that there is no real reason for a divorce and that the issues are not something that can't be worked out, he thinks its difficult at the moment.

I also spoke to a very good friend who W had spoken to and he was of the opinoin that what she was saying was overexaggerated and nothing like me at all, and he said that she seemed to believe it and that if he didn't know me he would think I was a right a$$hole from what she said. He also thought that she was using it to justify her decision. He thinks that its all a bit cr4p really.

Monday
Was back early, I went downstairs at 9.00, she had got out all of the breakfast stuff (bacon, eggs, sausages, eggs, beans etc) and got all of the pans out. I sat in the fornt room with her and she seemed a bit off, she asked how my evening was at the birthday, I asked her how her evening was and she said she 'got drugs and had sex' I repeated this back to her and she said 'what do you think' (I don't know?!?) we chatted for a bit then she made us both a really nice breakfast. I said I was going to go into town if she wanted to come, she did and we wandered about in town and had a coffee in the bookshop I got some new shoes then we cam back home, she left the car running and nipped in the house to use the bathroom before going off to her sisters and seeing her parents (back from holiday). That eve I came home at 22:00 and she was in bed she left her maruana, handbag ect on the table so she had smoked again. I tidied up and went to bed.

Monday
This morning she had got up and showered before I came down and she stayed in her room for a bit. When she came down she walked around the table to come and sit next to me to put her shoes on. (instead of on the opposite sofa like I expected) we chatted briefly. She said she was working until 6, she asked me if I was in or out - I said i didn't know and asked her - she said she had no plans.

There are also a number of inconsistencies in what W has said such as me not being invited to the B'day party (we both were and we had to sort it between us) She said that me friend at the wedding followed her out a pushed her a bit to speak whereas he said he was outside and she came out and told everything when he asked what was going on. She said that he understands about us whereas he actually doesn't. and so on I have not heard anything from lawyers, the marriage cert is in her car, she has not moved anything else out yet (and if she does move out she will leave all furniture at home until she is sorted) She is supposed to move to her parents this week but dunno.

Is this going good or bad or what? if anyone can give me an indication of what I am doing is working that would be cool and any advice on how to move forward. Also any WAW's able to provide insight into what 'stage' she is in (if at all).

Cheers all and best wishes

Gavin