I just had another thought. I think my H is cake eating a little. He gets to live alone...have me help with his bills...go out with me when he wants. It is like he has the relationship with no responsibility in it.
He doesn't have to worry about the house we haven't sold. He doesn't have to worry about the upkeep of it (bills, lawn, etc.). He has the good part of married life minus the stresses. Why would he want this arrangement to change?
Should I pull the plug on all the help I am giving him? Should I tell him that unless HE can make the car payment on his own he has to sell the car? Am I making it to easy on him?
I guess I thought at first that I was showing him how much I care about him by helping him. I think it was working like that at first as he really showed his gratitude and I didn't mind helping. Now it seems he is taking me for granted. He goes out to eat almost every day, he has drinks, and just spends the money he has on fun things. It isn't outrageous spending or anything...but if I couldn't pay my rent or car payment...there would be no eating out or drinks(BTW, he couldn't even pay his electricity bill this month)...I would probably be a hermit and would be eating ramon noodles. Am I doing more harm than good by helping him?
