Do you ever get the feeling that you are so totally fooling yourself. That you are stuck in wishing for what you can't have and what will never be. That reality has left you.
We all feel this way at times...but we need to think beyond this...that our spouses may not come back, but we are giving them the opportunity to work through their issues so see if someday we can create a new R/M.
toh, this takes time. It is hard to remember that sometimes. This just isn't easy. But have you ever thought about how many WAS's eventually decide that they have made a mistake? This is why you go on with your life and try to be happy being on your own. Let go and time will give you the answers you are looking for.
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My hopes are leaving me...
You need to focus on you and your D and N. Try not to think about if you have hope or not. I have some positives in my sitch but I have to keep my hope to a minimun. If I dwell on that hope, I find that I have expectations.
One thing I have learned out of this experience is that we can gain more control in our own lives by just changing our perspective. You can always try to something positive in almost any situation...which is the opposite of what our spouses are doing...they seem to be looking for the negative.
