Then I went back to Office Max and spent another $130 on copies and I'm not done yet. I'm hoping we can bleed some of this money out of W's rear. Ugghhhh!! If I was to do this over again, knowing I was going to have my W file for divorce, I'd definitely not do as good of a job keeping records. I kept everything, which means I also get to photo copy it all.
Keep the receipts for those copies--she should pay half the cost. In fact, the next time you have a shared cost with her--daycare for example--you might pay your share minus half the cost of the copies. Just a thought anyway.
Don't let her b!tching about the finances get to you. As an adult, she had/has a responsibility to be aware of her own financial situation. She just knows that it is an area where you feel some guilt, so she is attacking what she sees as a weak spot. At some point in this process of detachment you might begin to see some humor in her tirades. That kind of behavior becomes very predictable--whenever something doesn't go the way she wants, she'll attack some perceived flaw in your character. The next time you stand up to her, try taking a step back to observe the response. It won't be about the issue at hand, but rather some past "mistake" for which you should be sorry. It's a way of avoiding responsibility.
