You asked about what you should have done regarding asking your H about Easter etc. While I know that sometimes H's kind of expect their W's or xW's to schedule things, I am one of those that think they need to cowboy up and show their kids they have the intent to be active in their lives. He's making other choices for himself and he has the ability to choose a R (or not) with his kids. I never blame my H to our D's, but I don't rescue him either. His R with them is his responsibility. That's just my two cents (and notice where we're meeting...).
I know all of this is overwhelming, but the desert island idea is a good one. Whatever you can do to get through the day in a good mental state. If it isn't good now it will be, just have faith and keep coming here.
