Worried I found DB too late #2

[cw68]

OK, here goes. Mine, His, and Our connections. This is a bit difficult in ways because my H thinks we don't have anything in common anymore and he's not completely off the mark. A lot of the things we used to do we don't do anymore. First having two kids close together made it difficult and then for the past two years or so H hasn't wanted to do anything with me. Instead he chose to do fun things with friends instead of me. These things have changed what we do. My husband has also gotten into somewhat of a rut and doesn't do a lot of things he used to do, but I'm still including these in his activities because I think that if he shakes the apathy that our R caused he'd still be interested in them. So here goes:

Mine: civic activities, music, water sports, very social, cycling

His: running, clubbing, somewhat social, tennis (used to), motorcycles

Ours current: family, travel, wine tasting, golf, food/cooking, gardening, exercising

Ours used-to-be: camping, hiking, comedy clubs, politics, volunteering

Things he does that I'd be open to: tennis, clubbing, motorcycling

Things I do that I wish he'd be open to: cycling, music

Things we used to do that I miss: all of them! Really would like to begin camping and hiking again. Would like to volunteer as a family too.

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Now to some journaling:

Spoke to H when he called to say goodnight to the kids. Asked him what was going on and he just said, "Um. Just sitting here hanging out." Sounded kind of lonely or bored, though I realize I could be reading this into his voice. I was chipper and upbeat. Told him that I'm going to buy the tickets to the show and if he doesn't come with me I'll find another person to accompany me, that I was actually really excited now to go to my first hip-hop show. I'm not too into hip-hop. Love the sound, love the beat, hate the lyrics and the negative, misogynistic bent to it all. My husband loves it. However, after I was thinking about it, I love seeing live music and I haven't seen a modern day hip-hop show. I went to some rap shows back in the day before the gansta movement, so it's been awhile and I'm actually quite interested in the whole scene. Anyway, I digress. He said that that was a really good idea. I then told him I had to get off the phone because I have a small grant to write tonight. That was two hours ago, I should quit this internet stuff and start writing it!