You can have all the bichalina day's you need to, you have earned them.
I'm sorry MLM is still in the same place, it's been a while. When you are ready to stop standing I believe you know. I don't think it is a "light bulb" moment, it's a slow progression to the decision. I wouldn't say I am standing for my M any longer, I'm not looking for a new R, I just want to find peace and be me for a while. If STBX changed his mind would I consider it? Don't know. I think I would have to say yes but I don't think that he will ever come back.
You do what is best for you chica. I will support you either way,
