If you are saying to keep it in the 'I', (that is say what happened to you instead of telling people what to do) that may just be healthy communications. But if you are telling people not to share the down side, at least for me, that would keep me from making well informed decisions. The up and down sides of both directions need to be clear (at least somewhat) before a good decision can be made.
Physical abuse can be fairly easily defined (although in my case my W would argue that). Emotional and verbal abuse are much more subjective. What doesn't even bother one person, may bring another person to the point of emotional breakdown (and visa versa).
I think that it is possible to abuse people on a discussion board as well. A good starting point is, if it is abusive face to face, then it is abusive in any discussion. Trying to manipulate or control a personal decision fits the definition of emotional abuse. Providing information in a respectful manner does not (even if that information is not politically correct).
I'm curious. If you don't mind sharing, what types of abuse did you deal with that made you decide it was time to give up?
Just my 2 cents worth.
toubled husband
H - 47 W - 44 M - 18+ years Separated? - 4/07 S - 13 S - 15
