Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
... because the whole "GAL" behavior ALSO makes you more attractive to the wayward spouse. The trick is, you have to not do it for that reason, which takes some real effort. As soon as you do it to try to "win them back," it defeats the whole purpose.


Exactly.

I recall once where you referred to a DB strategy as being "part of this whole game". You must remember that it is not. You shouldn't be trying to win your H back; you should be trying to better yourself FOR yourself, and in the process, a more loving, understanding, uncontrolling you will once again attract your H's attention.

But know that once you have it, it doesn't stop there. It shouldn't. It's a continual effort, a continual growth.

Last edited by GoingForward; 03/25/08 01:58 AM.
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